The story of our journey toward a gluten-free lifestyle is one that has many subplots, complete with suspense and fascinating characters along the way. I won’t write the entire novel here, but I’ll give you the highlights instead.
Our Daughter Was Sick
When our second daughter was born, she had some serious issues which no doctor could pinpoint. Some of the more severe symptoms she had were not sleeping, dark red circles under her eyes and lots of fussiness which mostly came at night time. She was exclusively breastfed as a baby, and even nursing her did not help her sleep. As our daughter grew, her symptoms did not change, and she began to withdraw. She had what I call the “checked out look”, you know that dreamy stare that doesn’t actually focus on anything?
When our daughter Kate was born, her sister was only 17 months old, and although I was busy caring for my two babies, I took every.single.spare second to read and research so that I could find an answer to what was wrong with my daughter. I felt like this was on my shoulders because the practitioners on our ever-growing list of People Who Could Possibly Help was getting us nowhere.
Autism Spectrum Disorders and Dental Work
The more research I did on why babies didn’t sleep and had dark circles under the eyes, the more I came across issues related to Autism Spectrum Disorder (ASD). The more I read about Kate’s symptoms and ASD, the more I read about the benefits of a gluten-free lifestyle (and dairy-free, too). As I delved deeper into this rabbit hole, the more I learned about metal toxicity and how it relates to ASD and allergies.
It was then that I began to realize that perhaps it was the mercury that was chipped out of my teeth and replaced with composite fillings a few months before, that affected my baby. I had some old amalgam fillings that needed replacing when I was pregnant. My dentist decided to wait and do this as soon after my baby was born as possible, so I had these fillings replaced when Kate was only four or five weeks old. Since she was still breastfeeding, she too, was poisoned by the mercury that went through my body, and, into hers via my breastmilk.
Research is Key
At that time I was not aware that there are dentists who take mercury removal extremely seriously, and that there is a proper protocol for mercury removal. Since I did not know this, I went to my regular dentist who removed these fillings from my molars and as she was doing so, I remember swallowing chunks of my old fillings thinking to myself, this can’t be good.
It wasn’t until months later that I learned of the damage that mercury can do, particularly to a growing brain. Kate also had some exposure to toxic metals via a flu shot that I had when I was pregnant, and by all the vaccinations that she had at birth and until she was 9 months old.
Diet Changes and ASD
Another thing that kept coming up in my research was the Specific Carbohydrate Diet (SCD). This diet that has helped many children who are on the spectrum, and has helped many adults with leaky gut syndrome. Learning about leaky gut was a big aha! moment for me, as I had always had gut issues, ever since having surgery for an intestinal issue when I was two days old. It also made sense to me that anything that I was ingesting was going straight into my daughter, given that she was exclusively breastfed.
The first thing the SCD teaches is that you should cut out all grains. Wheat/gluten is a big culprit in causing gut issues, and so as I continued to try to find a practitioner who could help us, I cut out gluten, grains, many carbs that I was used to eating, and sugar. If you are imagining that going cold-turkey with this was probably hard, you’d be wrong. It was excruciating. I’m not gonna lie. And, I had a fairly healthy diet to begin with. I have always been into natural health and I knew the list of no-nos on Dr. Andrew Weil’s list, but it was still hard. So hard, that I have a very vivid memory of standing in my kitchen one weekend sobbing uncontrollably because I had to cook everything from scratch. Everything. Every. Little. Thing. No packaged anything for us. Plus, I was beyond sleep-deprived, and was caring for two babies, who now both had issues. (I had also continued to breastfeed my oldest daughter when I brought Kate home and she suffered some effects of this too.)
Eating Gluten-Free Today is Easy
The year we journeyed toward the gluten-free lifestyle was 2006, and back then, we couldn’t just run to our local grocery store and buy gluten-free items. I think there was one brand of rice bread at the store and not only did it taste awful and fall apart when you tried to use it, but it definitely wasn’t allowed on the SCD.
If we wanted any “baked goods” I had to make them out of almond flour. We bought almond flour in bulk, 25 pounds at a time, from a company who has since changed its name. It would come in a giant box in a giant bag and we’d repackage it in ziplock bags. I desperately missed bread, muffins, pastries, and crackers, but I found alternative ways of making these via the Specific Carbohydrate Diet. I had to learn to love cooking and baking. (I faked it then and I still don’t like it!)
Healing Began
The last doctor we saw around the time we went full-force with the SCD was a pediatric allergist. We opted for one blood draw, instead of the prick tests, and although this doctor made us feel ashamed for bringing our daughter the hour’s drive only to put her through the blood draw, he still agreed to do it. He kept telling us that we had a “perfectly health daughter” . Imagine how smug I felt when he called me on a Saturday morning, to tell me, “get your daughter off of all forms of gluten ASAP because she is highly allergic“. Thankfully, I had already learned that removing gluten could help, and we had been off of it for two or three weeks at that point.
Cheating and Proof
As we waited for Kate’s allergy reports, my own testing proved that Kate truly was allergic to wheat, as I suspected. One day I ate about one-third of a piece of Pizza Hut “personal pan pizza” while shopping at Target. Can you picture how small that is? I was starving and I had been on the SCD for about three weeks. Disclaimer: I never did the SCD intro diet; I went straight for the second stage. I just didn’t see how I could maintain strength while nursing two babies and not getting any sleep and by eating only gelatin and broth. I do know that the intro diet is a very important stage in healing though.
The fallout from that cheat was horrible. While Kate’s symptoms had not entirely disappeared, she was doing a little better in terms of not looking so “checked out” and the circles under her eyes were a bit lighter in color. After this one “cheat” her symptoms came back with a vengeance, and I did not cheat one tiny bit for the next 26 months.
Big Improvements
After about eight to ten weeks, we saw big improvements in Kate’s behavior and in her skin, her eyes and her circles under the eyes. It was as if the fog she was in was cleaning. By that time, we had found a doctor (and a dentist) who understood our issues. We thank God for both of them. The doctor we found is a DAN! (Defeat Autism Now!) doctor.
Our dentist is a member of the IAOMT board, and both of these practitioners taught us so much about the immune system and overall health. I believe that our DAN! doc saved Kate from an autism spectrum diagnosis. I believe that if we had not followed his protocol for repairing her gut and mine (and our immune systems), that events would have turned out much differently for us.
We Still Live a Gluten-Free Lifestyle
After a few years, I was tested for Celiac Disease. My results came back right on the border of “yes” and “no”, smack in the middle. My doctor took that as a yes, and it did explain why, after being off of gluten for a while, I gained weight (I had always had a hard time keeping weight on), and felt healthier than I had in years.
Today my girls and I still live a gluten-free lifestyle. About two and a half years into the SCD, I also introduced grains to my diet. I can handle these now in moderation. I tried eating wheat again a few years after doing the SCD, and it just didn’t really give me warm-fuzzy feeling I thought it might, and it made me constipated so I went back to the gluten-free lifestyle. This turned out to be a very good thing for me, because I have Hashimoto’s and was also reated for Lyme disease a few years ago, (thank you, mercury). Living a gluten-free lifestyle helps with any auto-immune disorder.
Both of my girls understand the health benefits of the way we eat. Kate has eaten tiny pieces of bread so she knows what “regular” bread tastes like, and when we go to church and receive holy communion she now consumes the “regular” host instead of the g/f one and she does just fine. Sometimes if we eat out, my girls will order French fries (these should usually NOT be eaten if you are living a gluten-free lifestyle, because of cross-contamination), but that also seems to be just fine for them in moderation.
Today, I still bake with almond flour, but not as regularly as before, and now that the SCD has improved our guts, we can eat other grains which allows us to be able to walk into pretty much any grocery store and buy gluten-free things like bread, muffins, crackers, and granola bars. We still prefer homemade things because of the high sugar content of many of these gluten-free packaged foods, but it’s nice to know that they are available to us if we want them, and it definitely makes living the gluten-free lifestyle a lot easier.
I know so many people who have decided to go gluten free and are so happy with it! Good for you!
It is amazing what gluten-free eating has done for so many people. It has helped me as well. Thanks for sharing your story.
Lots of good info here, which really needs to spread. People don’t seem to realize or accept how much what we eat affects us.
It’s amazing how much diet can change a person’s life. I just got a book about all natural remedies. It has foods that can naturally fight cancer. I need to change my diet because my skin is acting so crazy right now. Going to head to the dermatologist, but I’ve been doing research like a mad woman on what I should be eating.
Monica, I pray you get some good information from your dermatologist!
Going gluten free is tough at first. I had to eliminate gluten from my diet when I was breastfeeding my daughter. She was allergic to everything under the sun. I eventually found a rhythm and it became easier. Good luck on your journey!
Kimberly, I am glad things got easier for you!
Parents are tasked with being their children’s best, and sometimes only, advocates. Happy for you that you found something that would work for you and your family!
Going Gluten free is hard it is in so many things. I tried my son on that diet for a while to see if there were any improvements in his health and when we realized it wasn’t something he reacted to I was so relieved we didn’t have to do that diet anymore
Eating gluten-free can be a challenge for sure! I went gluten-free I think for a year but I was still getting stomach aches. Turned out that I was having issues with dairy and not the gluten! Once I got rid of the dairy I felt much better. I reintroduced gluten to my diet and I didn’t have any problems.
I got a small taste of this when I did Whole 30 (no dairy or gluten). While it was tough to begin with – I certainly noticed some great improvements over time. I need to do a better job with my kids’ meals in this area.
It’s so hard to have to cut things out of our diets that we’ve eaten for such a long time. But good for you for doing it for your little one and yourself. Your gut is probably thanking you! I had to cut out corn, rice, oats, peanuts, soy, sesame, and coconut. Let me tell you, corn is in everything…many things that don’t list corn specifically are derived from corn (like vanilla extract, vinegar, xantham gum, etc). It’s hard, but your body always thanks you.
Kristi, Yes! My oldest daughter had to eliminate all of those for a while, too. And corn is the WORST! I learned that it’s even in things like the plastic packaging that goes over meats in the grocery store. My friend’s son is HIGHLY allergic to corn. They have to be ultra-careful.
Wow! Good for you! I’m so happy you found what works best for you and your family!
I have heard so many positive things about going gluten free. It is not something I am ready to commit to, but have thought about it.
Interesting story, glad to hear you figured out what works for y’all. Im mostly gluten feee and I can totally tell when I cheat or have something by accident. At least it’s gottwn easier to find gluten free things.
Good for you mama! You watched your child and followed your gut. You know what is best for your sweet child and went after it! Great job!
Wow! I am so happy that you trusted your instincts, and researched your hunches!! Happy to read that your daughter evaded an autism diagnosis. I’m not ready to make the leap to gluten free (LOL) but I have to give you extreme kudos for making the best choice for your family! ?
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I tried a gluten free diet previously. It helped me lower down my bad cholesterol and helped me get back to shape. I think I need to return that diet!
I know that Gluten free has helped some people. Although I have been reading some recent studies that spoke otherwise. But people with Crohns it’s imperative to stay Gluten free and I know I had. wheat allergy like a child. Thankfully I grew out of it. The great thing is if it’s necessary they have so many great recipes for it now that you don’t have to feel like you have to give up anything if you do have to go Gluten Free.
Gluten-free is tough but and you’re right that it’s so much easier today. I did gluten free 30challenge and made a world of difference.I still limit my gluten intake.
I’ve seen lots of gluten free recipes and products, so I agree that it is much easier now. But I am not sure if I can do it.
We added gluten-free to our diet after finding out one of our family members was allergic. It’s actually made us more aware of the things we eat, which definitely helps us stay healthy as well.
Eating gluten-free can be challenging, but is easier than it was a few years ago. I wish you all the best in journey to live a gluten-free lifestyle.
Wow. I understand the journey because one of my friends is gluten free and not by choice. I’m happy that it’s gotten easier for you .
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I’m glad you found what works for you! Great article!
A gluten-free diet is awesome! I don’t think I’m intolerant however sometimes I’m just feeling so much better when I eat gluten-free pasta and bread!
Gluten free is really difficult but so long as you find the right way for you then it really is great.
I went gluten free for two years and it was tough! All the best of health to you and your family.
I have several family members with wheat allergies and gluten issued. My dad got Celiac years ago., maybe 10+. There was nothing flour rise at that time but some icky noodles. Now the selection is better tasting, so it almost tastes the same. Good for you to making the change for your family!
Lydia
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Wow, lots of twists and turns on your journey to a gluten-free lifestyle. It sure helps in the field of disease prevention. Good on you! 🙂
It is so interesting to read about why you decided to go Gluten Free, it seems to something so many people have to deal with and it is great it is slowly becoming easier.
My MIL is gluten free. It’s not a lifestyle I would ever pick, but I understand some people have to be gluten free, and more power to them!
Going gluten-free is tough but I guess you’re right that it’s so much easier today. I didn’t even know about gluten intolerance until just a couple of years ago. Happy things were looking up for you after some changes 🙂