Dear Homeschool Mom, You’re Worth It!
So many moms that I talk to somehow feel that if they take time for themselves, that they are cheating their children. This thinking is all wrong. There have been lots of memes in the arena about self care and what that should look like.
I disagree with many of the things that I hear and read about self-care for moms. Here’s what I do agree with: You’re worth it! I’m worth it! We’re all worth it! Give yourself the gift of soul care this year.
I prefer the term “soul care” to “self care.” Don’t get me wrong; I don’t believe that self care is a bad thing: no! I do think that sometimes we can lump just about everything into the “self care basket” and sometimes these things really shouldn’t be there. Do you know what I mean?
Things like allowing our kids to skip too many days of math just because our “selves” can’t take it. (Ask me how I know about this one.) Or, things like spending money on things when we promised ourselves and our families that we’d really try to stick to the budget this month. I’m sure you can come up with many more examples. But what is soul care?
Soul Care Is Different
Soul care is different. Soul care is taking time for yourself by giving the Lord some time in order to make yourself better. Hear that again: Soul care is taking time for yourself by giving the Lord some time in order to make yourself better.
Do you see what word is missing there? I didn’t say “Soul care is taking time for yourself in order to make yourself feel better.” I also didn’t say, “Soul care is taking time for you without giving anything in return.”
There are thousands of things that we can do to help us temporarily feel better. There are fewer things that we can do that can help us be better. Likewise, there seems to be an idea that if we take, then we can’t give. Not so.
Soul Care Makes Us Better
Spending time in quiet prayer and meditation is soul care. Soul care can include things that make us feel better, for sure! However, it goes deeper than that. Eating a chocolate bar makes me feel better, but does it make me a gentler, more patient mom? Not really. And if it did, I’d buy stock in that chocolate company right away. Sign me up.
Soul Care Helps Us See the Big Picture
Ever feel like you’re spinning your wheels trying to get things done, all the while knowing that you’re running out of time? There seems to be so little time for science, math, and SAT prep. Your little kids need more play time with friends and the week has gone by again. You’re on the hamster wheel wondering how you’ll ever reach the end. Taking time every day to spend in the presence of God both helps us slow down and get to where we need to be faster. It’s a dichotomy. A mystery. But it works that way. And you’re worth it!
Take courage, moms! You’re worth it. Try it for a week and see how the mystery plays out in your life. Download my 30-day Affirmation Journal for Christian Moms and see how your life changes. You’ll have more peace, clarity, and patience for all the things you need to do.
And then go get that chocolate bar!
For more help with your homeschool life, check out my Homeschool Helpline group. It can be an important part of your soul care, too!